9 Tips for Getting to Know Someone on a Dating App
Critics of online dating might very well argue that you just can’t get to know someone online.
In the past, this was probably somewhat true. It’s always more difficult to get a true sense of what the other person is like when you’re only interacting through words on a screen.
But as technology continues to advance, so do the ways that we can utilize that technology to get to know someone we’ve never met in person before.
If you’ve ever found it difficult to truly get a grasp of what someone is like online, here are nine tips you can utilize to get to know someone better on a Catholic dating app like Catholic Singles.
1. Read their online dating profile closely
Getting to know someone online can start with you. If you find someone you’re interested in online, don’t stop with just a look at the profile picture and quick skim of their profile.
Instead, read the whole online dating profile. It’s great if you’re excited that this person seems to have some of the same interests as you.
But if you really want to get to know them you should take a close look at all the material they’ve written about themselves from the get-go.
2. Put in work on your own profile
It might not seem like paying extra attention to your own online dating profile will be of much help as you try to get to know someone else, but some extra effort here might really pay off.
As you try to establish an initial connection with someone online, it can go a long ways in making the other person feel comfortable with you if your profile is strong.
Put yourself in the shoes of the other person. If someone messages you but you look at their profile and find that it’s not complete or otherwise not that exciting, how eager would you be to message them back and begin a conversation?
On the other hand, a complete profile that’s full of unique info about yourself can help another person you’d like to connect with feel excited to talk to you and get to know you.
3. Ask the other person a lot of questions
When you’re trying to get to know someone, it’s always good to ask them about themselves.
People typically like to talk about themselves. So if you ask them questions about their interests and background, they will often feel excited to share.
The more questions you ask, the more you will show them that you are interested in getting to know them and the easier it will be to do so.
4. Work on the quality of your questions
Asking the other person questions can signal how interested you are in them. But even better than question quantity is the quality of your questions.
Dive deeper than basic questions about their background. Ask questions that are unique, that they haven’t heard a million times before, and that will truly help you to learn something unique about them.
5. Embrace the uniqueness of Catholic dating in your questions
On a Catholic dating app like Catholic Singles, there are many ways to get to know someone better by asking them about their faith life.
On Catholic Singles, you can look for the “My Faith” section of the other person’s profile and see if they have listed anything about their faith life that lends itself to a question from you.
Connecting with someone about their faith life is a great way to dive deeper than the basics of background info from the start.
6. Share aspects of your own faith life with them
Just as asking someone else about their faith life can lead to deeper conversation, you can also foster this connection by finding ways to share about your own faith.
If you are particularly devoted to a certain saint or very involved in a ministry of some kind, you can mention these types of things in response to any questions about your interests or hobbies!
The beauty of Catholic dating is that these types of conversation are easy ways to get to know someone.
7. Look for other shared interests and experiences
Though your shared faith is one of the best parts about Catholic dating, it’s certainly not the only avenue of shared experiences to travel down.
As you try to get to know someone on an online dating app, make use of any other areas of your life experiences or interests that match up with the other person.
Any areas of overlap or similarity in your lives can serve as a great way to dive deeper into getting to know one another.
8. Make use of the “Really Wants to Know” questions on Catholic Singles
On the Catholic Singles app, there’s a section of profile called “(Name) Really Wants To Know…”
Users can fill in this section with questions they are most eager to have answered by a potential date.
For example, a user might really want to know whether you agree with all the teachings of the Catholic Church.
Make full use of sections like this on both your own profile and the other person’s profile.
In Catholic dating, there might be a lot of particular criteria that users are looking for in a person–criteria relating to the Catholic faith, chastity, or any other number of such things.
Sections like this can be a great way to get to know these things about one another.
9. Utilize info from user polls
One way users of Catholic Singles can get to know each other better on our Catholic dating app is by using the poll feature.
Users can answer poll questions about the faith, their interests, or hot topics.
You can look at the answers other users have selected to learn more about their personalities. Or you can answer poll questions yourself to give others a chance to learn more about you.
Forming connections online with others can be difficult at times.
In Catholic dating, we have a few unique opportunities for forming lasting connections. With a little effort, you just might be able to get to know someone who is the person you’ve been searching for.
Adrienne Thorne is a Catholic wife, mother, screenwriter, and blogger, as well as author of the Catholic YA romance novel SYDNEY AND CALVIN HAVE A BABY. She blogs about TV and Movies from Catholic perspective at Thorne in the Flesh: A Faithful Catholic's Guide to Netflix, Hulu, and More.