Can You Tactfully Talk to Multiple People On a Dating Site?

Is it possible to talk to more than one person at once while you’re navigating online dating apps as a single Catholic? It’s a tricky question. The real answer? Sometimes.

Talking to multiple people on a dating site is not something we give an automatic “no” to. However, there are some rules involved to make this a smooth endeavor where no one is bound to get their feelings hurt.

Here are some things to think about and do if you want to talk to multiple people on Catholic dating apps.

Be honest with everyone

When it comes to talking to multiple men or women on Catholic dating apps, make sure people know your intentions. Let the people you’re messaging know that you created an online dating profile to get to know multiple people and see where things go.

Your honest can help filter some people out for you from the beginning or your online dating experience. If they don’t like that you’re talking to multiple people, you know not to keep communicating with them. Being honest gives others the chance to be upfront, too. This gives you the chance to learn more about the man or woman you’re chatting with.

There is nothing wrong with talking to multiple people at one time. Part of having profiles on Catholic dating apps is meeting new people. Casually talking and going on dates with multiple people is a great way to do this.

Read more: What Catholic Dating Sites Get Wrong About Communication

Jut make sure people know you’re getting to know them casually. If it’s no longer casual and you’re ready to get serious with one person, then you’ll need to communicate that. Communicating your wants and needs as you get to know people is also a great way to practice communication skills, which you’ll need in any romantic relationship.

Don’t make things serious with one person while talking with others

Say you’re ready to get serious with one of the men or women you’ve been getting to know through a Catholic dating app. Now is the time to immediately let anyone else you’ve been talking with know that you’re dating someone. This lets them know to move on and it keeps you honest. Some of these people might make good friends, but they deserve to know that you’re no longer looking for a romantic partner.

Don’t keep communicating with the other men or women you’ve been talking to on these online dating apps if you’re exclusively dating someone else. Nothing good comes from treating people like back-up options.

This is part of treating the men or women you interact with on Catholic dating apps as people, not potentials. You do not want to have a “little black book” of names and contact information of other people for “just in case”. Everyone you encounter has a vocation, just like you do. Part of talking to them was figuring out if you should look toward a particular vocation together. When you commit to someone else, you need to let the others know so they can have a clearer vision for the way they’re discerning their vocation.

Dating is all about discernment

Are you having a hard time stopping communication with other people, even though you’re in a committed relationship now? It might be time to take a step back and look at your dating experience.  Take time to think through the following questions:

  • Why are you still so attached to this other person?
  • Does this Catholic man or woman feel the same way about you?
  • Why didn’t you choose a relationship with them in the first place?
  • What do you like about this person?
  • Are there any red flags?
  • What do you like about the person you are in a relationship with?
  • Have you prayed about the situation?

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Discernment involves choosing between two good things. Take the time to discern well as you navigate online dating apps as a Catholic. You’ll be better of for it, and so will your partner.

In the end, no matter which relationship you choose to pursue, choose wholeheartedly. That means cutting off communication with the people that you met on Catholic dating apps who you’re not dating. It’ll sting for a little while, but you’ll know you’ve done all you can to discern the right scenario and do what is right.

My mother always told me to never do anything halfway and online dating as a Catholic man or woman is no different. When you make a choice, choose with your whole heart and self and give that relationship the chance it needs to thrive.

If you find you’re really having a hard time choosing between two people that you met via Catholic dating apps, don’t get serious with either one. Stay casual. This will give you both the time and the information you need to make a good choice.

Perhaps you’ll even find that neither one is the right person for you!

Yes, it’s possible to be both casual and intentional on Catholic dating apps

The bottom line is that it’s perfectly fine to get to know multiple people at once while you’re logged into Catholic dating apps. But if you’re choosing to communicate with different men or women, make sure you actually want to get to know the people you’re talking to. Remember, there is a real person on the other side of the phone screen!

Every person who filled out an online dating profile on the Catholic dating app you’re on is worth a little bit of your time and investment. Don’t treat anyone otherwise! You made an online dating profile on a Catholic dating app to get to know people, so get to know them! Being intentional with even casual online dating is so important and so fruitful.

Talking to multiple people with respect and tact also helps you navigate feelings of rejection if someone doesn’t work out. Rejection stings less when we understand it’s not personal, it’s just preference. Messaging multiple people helps you to know and understand your own preferences and introduces you to the wide dating pool there really is.

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