What to Do If You Were Dumped over the Holidays: 11 Bibles Verses to Help You Get Back on Track
Breakups are horrible any time of the year, but calling it quits with someone around the holidays can be especially hard. Whether you met someone via online dating or through mutual friends, ending a relationship is never fun. While families and friends are gathering and celebrating all the highs of the season, going through a breakup can leave you feeling the lowest of lows.
When feeling overwhelmed with heartbreak, one of the best places to turn is Scripture. The Bible can provide us with healing and clarity when everything else seems broken and confusing.
Breakups, Holidays and online dating
Unfortunately the holidays are a common time for breakups. While it can feel lonely, you’re not alone. Truly.
Aside from friends and family who love and support you, you have something and someone much bigger who is there for you like no one else can be. God speaks to us through the Bible and when you are suffering and seeking questions to hard answers, he is right there waiting to guide you.
Often after a break-up, it can be tempting to jump right back in to online dating. A solid piece of advice, however, is to take some time reading and praying through the Bible to get the comfort you seek.
While people definitely help cheer us and fill a void that’s been left from a breakup, there is an element of spiritual and emotional healing we should seek first. The Bible will often help guide us through it.
Bible verses about love, breakups, and healing
The Bible holds a wealth of knowledge, advice and stories about love, heartbreak and healing. If you are seeking comfort or wisdom after a break-up, you need go no further than Scripture to find words of healing.
When you’re feeling stuck in the middle of heartbreak and need help moving on, read through the Bible verses about love below and allow yourself sink into the pages of God’s Word.
“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”
God tells us time and time again that His ways are not our ways. We may not always understand the plan He has for us, but he assures us that in time we will have a better understanding of the path our life takes.
He advises us not to be troubled by the things of this world. When heartbreak feels overwhelming, he wants you to know that it is temporary and will pass.
God has great plans for you and asks that your heart be filled with peace at the thought of all he has in store for you.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”
This verse is perhaps as straightforward as they come. God asks us to trust in him. He encourages us to not try and figure it out on our own.
If you find yourself in the midst of a breakup, it can be tempting to mull over the “why” and get stuck on trying to figure out how and if this is a good thing for your life. God asks us not to become obsessed with the “why.” Instead, submit yourself to him and trust that he has a plan and it will unfold in time.
When you pray on this verse, commit to making sure the path you take is one that you’re sure he has laid out before you. Ask him to help you see with his eyes, to hear with his ears.
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
If anyone knows the pain of a broken heart, it’s Jesus. He holds close the ones who are hurting and lifts up those who have been crushed under the weight of tremendous suffering.
Though surrounded by people all throughout his earthly ministry, Jesus had many times where he felt so excruciatingly lonely that he would cry out to the Father for help. Here, he asks us to do the same.
Go to God and call him by name. Allow yourself to grieve in his presence. Let the Lord comfort you and fill you with his healing spirit.
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
It is commonly said by physicians that when a bone breaks, once it heals, it will become stronger than it was before due to the calcification process. The same can be said for broken hearts.
When you allow God into the most vulnerable, broken place of your heart, that is where he can do the most healing. The ultimate physician, God can mend the wounds that are too deep for any other human to ever impact.
He wants us to run to him like the child that runs to his mother when he’s been hurt. Give him the same trust to take care of you as you did your earthly parents. Only God can make you whole again.
“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
It can be scary, even terrifying, when life doesn’t work out the way we thought it would. If you are in a relationship that feels stable one minute, and falls apart the next, it can rock your whole world.
In this verse God reassures us that he is there. He is speaking directly to you when he says not to be dismayed. Yes, life has thrown you a curve-ball. It’s okay to be hurt. But give that uneasiness to the Lord and he will use it to fortify you.
“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”
This is the perfect verse to turn to when you are feeling low. When you are on your knees and waving the white flag of surrender because of the hurt you that is overwhelming you, this is when God asks for your strength.
As lonely as you may feel, as hurt or angry as you are, know that Jesus is with you through it and is feeling your pain too. The world may seem to turn it’s back on you, but he never will.
Find comfort in these words and take refuge in his steadfast love.
“He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”
In all things God has the final say. Despite the state of your life at this moment, or the state of the world, God holds the future.
In this verse we are assured that God’s mercy will wipe away our pain and sorrow and replace our earthly longing and sorrows with the joy that only God can provide.
When you pray over this verse, think about the incredibility of these words. Think about the fact that this place you are in now is but a glimpse of all that God has in store for you. Your tears, however hard they may fall in this moment, are temporary. He will be the one to wipe them away.
“Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him and he will do this”
In this verse you are told that God will grant you the desires of your heart. After a breakup, these can be hard words to read at first. It can be easy to question God and his intentions when a relationship ends.
But we are reminded that we do not know the why behind everything that happens and that even in the heartbreaks, there can be lessons to be learned. Perhaps God is preparing your heart for something bigger to come, or a different path altogether.
Here you are assured that as long as you commit your life to the Lord, God will lead you to the place, and person should it be so, that you belong.
“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.”
There is no room in your heart for God if it is full of anger. That is why it is mandatory, when we are hurt, to let go of any rage and bitterness.
Hate and anger are like a cancer that grows and infects your heart and soul so much that it blocks out the light. By letting go of it, God can create a new and clean heart within you, one which will be able to love with a newness and tenderness that it can’t right now.
You’ll also release a weight of incredible burden. Even if your anger is just, it doesn’t make it less to carry. Allow yourself to release the pain you’ve been through and embrace God’s peace within you.
“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”
In this verse we are reassured that we are here for a reason. When you read these words, stop whatever else you are doing and take this in. Know that you have been created for a purpose and that God is leading you toward it.
Lean into your love for God during the time that you’re hurting. Allow the Lord to love you back and reveal to you the love that he so passionately wants to share with you.
“Surely God is my salvation;I will trust and not be afraid.The Lord, the Lord himself, is my strength and my defense; he has become my salvation.”
No breakup or heartbreak in the world will leave you alone because the Lord himself is with you. God tells us time and time again that he is our strength and our defense.
When you are hurting, and when you feel like you’ve reached your lowest point, don’t let go of the fact that God is your salvation alone. He is the one that you must cling to and seek refuge in.
With the Lord by your side you will heal. You’ll learn to love again in a way that is new and better than before.
Online Dating After Healing
Once you have allowed yourself to heal, it is okay to begin dating again. God wants you to find happiness and joy in this life and once your heart is ready, it will be good to move on.
Once the new year comes, venture out into the world of online dating and let yourself explore new friendships and relationships. Working through your pain will allow you to come out stronger on the other side which will allow you to reenter the dating scene with a better perspective.
Don’t let yourself feel pressured or intimidated when re-entering the online dating world. Have fun with it! This is a new you, new year and new opportunity to create a life you love.
The pain of a breakup cuts deep. It will take time and effort to heal.
Along with reading and praying through the Bible, surround yourself with people who can support and love you through this journey. Find friends who share your same faith and values to walk this life by your side as you move on.
Whether it be in person or online dating, open your heart again and take comfort in the fact that God makes all things new again, for the sake of those who love him.
Cassi Villanueva is a freelance writer and contributing blogger at Catholic Singles. Born and raised in the south, when she's not writing, she can be found spending time with her husband and four children in the northern suburbs of Atlanta, GA.