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4 Prayers to Pray When You’re Single (And Wishing You Weren’t)

Last modified: July 3, 2019 Avatar for Chloe LangrBy Chloe Langr
4 Prayers to Pray When You’re Single (And Wishing You Weren’t)

Being single can be frustrating, especially when it seems as if God is calling you to marriage, but forgot to call your spouse! During these times, we need to turn to God. As you navigate Catholic online dating services and discern God’s will, keep these 4 prayers in your heart.

I remember how glaringly obvious my singleness felt in college, especially on the days leading up to Valentine’s Day. Red and pink hearts were scattered across the hallways, and the cafeteria made heart-shaped cookies for dessert that day.

Couples seemed to be everywhere around me—kissing, holding hands as they walked between classes; sitting beside each other as they ate lunch in the union. The reality of being single seemed even harder to handle when everywhere I looked, it seemed like everyone was in a relationship except me.

I turned to God in prayer quite a bit when I was single—or at least, I thought I had a good prayer life. The reality was that my prayer life consisted of yelling at God, or bargaining with Him so that He’d bring that special someone into my life.

Why was I alone when all my friends were dating?

When would it be my turn to be swept off of my feet by romantic gestures?

How long was I going to be single, God?

Prayer wasn’t a conversation between God and myself. Instead, it was a time for me to vent my frustrations at the Lord and tell Him exactly what He should be doing in my love life.

I didn’t appreciate the beauty of most of my time as a single woman because I was too busy looking ahead to the next step. If I could go back to my time in college and my prayer life, I would spend a lot less time yelling at God and telling Him to fix my life, and more time listening to His will and being satisfied with Him.

Looking back, here are the prayers I would have prayed, and recommend every single person struggling with God’s plan pray during their season of singleness:

1. Pray to be filled by Christ alone

Pray to be filled

Everyone longs to give themselves completely to someone,
To have a deep soul relationship with another,
To be loved thoroughly and exclusively.
But God, to a Christian, says,
“No, not until you are satisfied, fulfilled and content
With being loved by Me alone,
With giving yourself totally and unreservedly to Me,
With having an intensely personal and unique relationship
With Me alone.
Discovering that only in Me is your satisfaction to be found,
Will you be capable of the perfect human relationship
That I have planned for you.
You will never be united with another until you are united
With Me alone,
Exclusive of anyone or anything else,
Exclusive of any other desires or longings.

I want you to stop planning,
Stop wishing,
And allow Me to give you the most thrilling plan existing,
One that you cannot imagine.
Please allow Me to bring it to you.
You just keep watching Me, expecting the greatest things.
Keep experiencing the satisfaction that I Am.
Keep listening and learning the things I tell you.
You just wait.
That’s all.
Don’t be anxious.
Don’t worry.
Don’t look at the things you think you want;
You just keep looking off and away up to Me,
Or you’ll miss what I want to show you.
And then when you are ready,
I’ll surprise you with a love far more wonderful than any
You could dream of.
You see, until you are ready and until
The one I have for you is ready
(I am working even at this moment to have you both ready at the same time),
Until you are both satisfied exclusively with Me
And the life I prepared for you,
You won’t be able to experience the love that
Exemplified your relationship with Me.
And this is the perfect love.

And dear one, I want you to have this most wonderful love,
I want you to see in the flesh a picture of your
Relationship with Me,
And to enjoy materially and concretely
The everlasting union of beauty, perfection and love
That I offer you with Myself.
Know that I love utterly.
I Am God.
Believe it and be satisfied.

(Attributed to Saint Anthony of Padua)

2. Pray for trust in God’s plan 

Pray for trust

My Lord God, I have no idea where I am going. I do not see the road ahead of me.
I cannot know for certain where it will end.
Nor do I really know myself, and the fact that I think that I am following your will does not mean that I am actually doing so.
But I believe that the desire to please you does in fact please you.
And I hope I have that desire in all that I am doing. I hope that I will never do anything apart from that desire.
And I know that if I do this you will lead me by the right road, though I may know nothing about it.
Therefore will I trust you always, though I may seem to be lost and in the shadow of death.
I will not fear, for you are ever with me, and you will never leave me to face my perils alone.

(Thomas Merton)

3. Pray to soothe your anxious heart 

Pray to soothe your anxious heart

May today there be peace within.
May you trust God that you are exactly where you are meant to be.
May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith.
May you use those gifts that you have received, and pass on the love that has been given to you.
May you be content knowing you are a child of God.
Let this presence settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise, and love.
It is there for each and every one of us.

(Saint Therese of Liseux)

4. Pray to see the joy in this season of singleness 

Pray to see the joy

O Lord my God,
Teach my heart this day where and how to see you,
Where and how to find you.
You have made me and remade me,
And you have bestowed on me
All the good things I possess,
And still I do not know you.
I have not yet done that
For which I was made.
Teach me to seek you,
For I cannot seek you
Unless you teach me,
Or find you
Unless you show yourself to me.
Let me seek you in my desire,
Let me desire you in my seeking.
Let me find you by loving you,
Let me love you when I find you.

(St. Anselm)

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Now that I’m married, I can see God at work throughout my entire time of singleness—they say hindsight is 20/20 and I believe it. There were so many instances in my life where God was holding me, carefully placing me just where I needed to be.

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Be Filled with Christ – St. Anthony of Padua

St. Anthony of Padua Prayer for Single People

Pray to Trust in God’s Plan – Thomas Merton

Prayer to Trust - Thomas Merton

Prayer to Soothe an Anxious Heart – St Therese

Prayer to Soothe an Anxious Heart

Pray to See Joy in Your Singleness – St. Therese

See Joy in Singlenss

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Chloe Langr is a very short stay-at-home-wife, whose growth has probably been stunted by the inhumane amounts of coffee she regularly consumes. When she is not buried in a growing stack of books, she can be found spending time with her husband, geeking out over Theology of the Body, or podcasting. You can find more about her on her blog "Old Fashioned Girl."

    Joyce Grace
    2 Sep 2017
    12:49pm

    Both of my godparents never married. They both were exemplary Christians. I married and had two children, but the marriage failed and was annulled. I have been reluctant to try again, but now in my senior years I am considering the very opposite of the norm, a relationship.

    I really appreciate the four prayers for singles. I found it especially fruitful during the current Texas disaster.

    Lu
    2 Sep 2017
    1:29pm

    As soon as I woke up this morning and started making coffe, I felt an overwhelming hopeless feeling of my fate as living my life single. And looked at a picture of Christ and asked that he helped me to accept it so I can finally stop feeling so lonely.
    I sat with my coffee and iPad and as soon as I went online a message popped up from Catholic Singles saying. “4 Prayers To Pray When Single”!!
    It was as if I received an instant reply from God! It confirmed that I need to stop the search and disappointing results process and just focus on God.
    I am so appreciative of these prayers. Thank you for posting this. It means the world to me!
    Thank you

    Rose
    17 Sep 2018
    8:17pm

    These are awesome and really helps alot – I definitely need to get closer to Jesus. However, what about those of us that live alone? We don’t only need God, we need humans also, correct? At least one. I have friends, but since they have families, they tend to do things with other families.

      Chloe Langr
      20 Sep 2018
      10:31am

      Hi Rose!

      You’re absolutely right – we aren’t made to be islands in this life. We’re made in the image of God, and God is a Trinitarian community. So, as humans made in His image, we need community, too! When I was a Catholic single, I was able to find great community with other Catholic singles at my parish. If there isn’t a group for Catholic singles at your parish, you could pray about starting one! But there are other great ways to meet people if you live alone. Here are a couple of articles that discuss community:

      https://www.catholicsingles.com/blog/adult-friendship-tips/

      https://www.catholicsingles.com/blog/single-parish-life/

      Kathleen
      26 Sep 2018
      7:58am

      Hi Rose,
      I too am alone now. Divorced and childless, and in my fifties. I know how difficult it can be to be around couples and families. I will add you to my prayer list, that you and I both find good and faithful Catholic friends.

    Chidi
    13 Oct 2018
    8:43pm

    I was uplifted when I read these prayers. Its is more frustrating in my part of the World, Nigeria for women when approaching 40 and you are not married. But going through the prayer of trusting in God’s plan gave me this inner peace. Right now I believe in God’s plan for me and I know that God’s plan for me is to have an expected end .

      Chidindu
      5 Dec 2018
      3:37am

      Hi Chidi,
      You remind me of a lady that got married in her late thirties.
      She is enjoying her marriage.

      I learnt these words from her, “Take your time!… And don’t ever let any one put you under pressure.”

      I’m at that point in my life where being single again has opened my eyes to the virtures I need to sharpen/polish and the vices I need to do away with.

      The Nigerian (environment) factor will always come in. Especially when your relatives are more worried than your own parents. One thing I have done consistently in the past 10 months is to be internally aware by constantly seeking peace within, that I’ve learnt to ignore most of the noise outside.

      Keep living the faith, Chidi.

    Chidindu
    5 Dec 2018
    3:45am

    Hi Chloe,

    Thank you for sharing.
    I drew great insight from your words. The prayers are actually the words I’ve been struggling to pray or express during my quiet time.
    I’ve saved the prayer cards. I will use them regularly.

    Thank you again, ma’am.

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