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Catholic Daily Readings and Prayers for Your Future Husband

Last modified: July 18, 2019 Avatar for Chloe LangrBy Chloe Langr
Catholic Daily Readings and Prayers for Your Future Husband

“Pray for your future husband!” Maybe you’ve heard it from the ladies at church, your friends, or your parents. Their encouragement can serve as a beautiful reminder. After all, how often do we actually pray for our future husband or work our future husband into our Catholic daily readings, both for our holiness and for his??

Pursuing an intimate friendship with Christ is something to invest in as a single person (and continue when you’re married!). While you’re discerning your vocation to marriage though, how is your prayer life? Are you praying for your spouse?

Your future husband is a real man who faces temptations and struggles throughout the day. He has good moments and hard moments. Even though you don’t know who he is or what he looks like yet, God does. He honors your prayer.

If you’re a single Catholic woman, we encourage you to pray for your future spouse. Remember that he is a man created by God! Shift your focus away from praying that he appears in your life and instead will his good through prayer.

In this blog post, we’ll be discussing:

  • The importance of Catholic marriage
  • What attributes you’re looking for in your future husband
  • How to be the partner you want to find
  • Catholic daily readings to meditate on as you pray for your future husband

Also See: 6 Weird Bible Verses About Love – and What They Actually Mean

Marriage is an important commitment

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In a season of singleness, marriage can seem forever away. But marriage is a beautifully important commitment to think about even if you’re not dating any one at the present moment. In fact, research has discovered that the single most important factor in keeping a marriage stable over time is a strong commitment.

Dr. Scott Stanley, a commitment researcher, says that commitment consists of two parts. He calls these the “want to” and the “have to” parts of commitment. The first part of this important commitment is personal dedication to the marriage. This means that you’ll strive to prioritize your relationship and share goals with each other. The second part of commitment in marriage is constraint. This means persevering when the going gets rough.

So, in sickness or in health, marriage is a covenant that requires a major commitment.

Husband and wife become one

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Back in the very beginning, God had marriage in mind. After the Lord created Eve out of the rib of Adam, Adam woke up and exclaimed, “This one, at last, is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh!”

The author of Scripture goes on to explain that this is “why a man leaves his father and mother and clings to his wife, and the two of them become one body.”

You may not be able to become one flesh with your future husband until after the wedding ceremony is over, but you can strive to become of one heart and mind now. Pray daily to the Lord so that he can help you become of one heart and mind with him and his plans. Then, pray that your future husband can walk along a path of holiness, becoming of one heart and mind with the Lord, too.

What attributes do you look for in your future husband?

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If God calls you to the vocation of marriage, what qualities are you looking for in your future husband? Romantic comedies, novels, and social media may influence your criteria, making your list look something like this:

  • He’s handsome (maybe the perfect combination of Brad Pitt and Matt Damon)
  • He has an incredible sense of humor and is always making you laugh
  • He’s intelligent, well-read, and encourages interesting conversation in your time together
  • Always up for something new, he pushes you out of your comfort zone with fun adventures
  • He likes the same things you do, and is always down for a coffee date
  • Your family would love him, and his family would embrace you with arms wide open
  • He shares goals with you and your life together – and a shared faith life would be great

Conscious or subconscious, the qualities and attributes you’re looking for in a future spouse influence the men that you’ll be interested in and go on dates with. But looking back on that list, there’s something that’s missing. While the list emphasizes the way that you’d love to find this man attractive, there’s very little on the list when it comes to values and shared beliefs.

If you want to prepare yourself right now for the romance of a lifetime, make sure to define your own values and qualities. What does the best version of you look like? By identifying your own values, goals, and dreams, you’ll be able to find shared meaning with someone. The happiest couples are those who create shared meaning in their relationships. So looks, interests, and family of origin will look different for every couple. But if you have an end goal in mind together as a couple, the areas you don’t agree on will look a lot less scary.

Be the partner you want to find

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Defining your own values and goals also helps you make sure that you’re not forgetting yourself in the process. It’s easy to desire a long list of qualities and characteristics from your future husband. But what about yourself? What qualities and attributes are you sharpening in your own life in order to become a better future wife?

Right now, as a single Catholic woman, is a great time to dive deeper into your relationship with Christ, family, and friends. It’s also prime time to start kicking bad habits to the curb and embracing a holy, healthy lifestyle.

How do Scriptures play into your values and interests?

If you’re looking for a concrete way to pray for your future wife, look no further than Scripture (the Bible has plenty to say about love and marriage). God’s word lays out many of the attributes and characteristics of good, holy men and women.

Ask the Lord to help you achieve these qualities and values in your own life, then pray for your future husband, too (and don’t worry, we are telling guys to pray for their future wives as well!). Your prayers can be a source of encouragement for him on the path to Heaven, especially on the days when the call to holiness is challenging.

4 Bible verses about marriage for him

If God were to put together a list of a good, holy, Catholic husband, what would he say? It turns out that he’s already made that list, over and over. He inspired the authors of Scripture to write about the qualities of a strong, holy man. Here are four Bible verses about marriage and holiness to meditate on when praying for your future husband.

Ephesians 5:25

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“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ loved the church and handed himself over for her,” Saint Paul reminds us in Scripture. True, Christ-like love requires the ultimate sacrifice.

Pray today that your future husband can grow in courage and sacrifice, ready to die to himself everyday for the good of your marriage.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

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“Two are better than one: they get a good wage for their toil. If the one falls, the other will help the fallen one,” the author of Scripture writes. “But woe to the solitary person! If that one should fall, there is no other one to help.” This verse emphasizes the importance of community.

Even though marriage is beautiful, you and your future husband will both still need community. Today, pray that your future husband invests into healthy, wholesome friends who encourage his journey to Heaven. Pray that his friends will be there to pick him up when he falls into temptation. Then pray for good friends for yourself, as well!

Genesis 2:24

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“This is why a man leaves his father and mother and clings to his wife, and the two of them become one body,” the author of Genesis writes. While it’s beautiful to pray for your future husband, don’t forget to pray for his family, too.

When you marry each other, you’ll marry into each other’s families. Pray for the strength of his parents’ marriage, and his family faith foundation.

Ecclesiastes 4:12

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“Where one alone may be overcome, two together can resist. A three-ply cord is not easily broken,” the author of Scripture writes. During your prayer time for your future husband, pray for his relationship with the Lord.

The two of you together can resist the temptations of the devil. But with the Lord in the middle of your relationship, your three-ply cord will not easily be broken.

Preparing yourself for marriage is just as important as choosing the right person

Remember to pray for strength for yourself just as much as you pray for your future husband. While you are praying for him to grow in holiness as a man of God, he may be praying for you to become the woman that God has created you to be! Take active steps in your daily life to become that woman.

Titus 2:5

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“Older women should be reverent in their behavior, not slanderers, not addicted to drink, teaching what is good,” Paul writes in his Letter to Titus. “They may train younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled . . . so that the word of God may not be discredited.”

Spend time with holy women regularly. They can not only provide a great listening ear as you discern your vocation, but can be an example of holy femininity in your life. Ask for their advice and listen to their wisdom.

Conclusion

If you haven’t started praying for your future husband, start today! But remember, this shouldn’t be a prayer petitioning the Lord to introduce this man into your life right now. Instead, let your prayer be a prayer of daily surrender to the Lord and his plans for your future marriage. Pray that your future husband strives for holiness, and then continue to strive for holiness yourself, too!

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Chloe Langr is a very short stay-at-home-wife, whose growth has probably been stunted by the inhumane amounts of coffee she regularly consumes. When she is not buried in a growing stack of books, she can be found spending time with her husband, geeking out over Theology of the Body, or podcasting. You can find more about her on her blog "Old Fashioned Girl."

    Catherine McDermott
    11 Oct 2018
    8:57pm

    Excellent article & content/specifics Chloe, Thank You!
    In 1968 I was a freshman, age 13, at a Catholic All-Girls High School where we had a sweet soft-spoken elderly Nun as our Religion Class Teacher. She would walk slowly, quietly up and down the rows of desks with her eyes closed and gently say to us : “Always Pray to St. Joseph for a good husband, girls”…
    I prayed daily about my future husband, and in 1980 I married at age 26 in my Catholic Parish, after a 6-month whirlwind courtship.
    I instantly became a Military Wife, and although my new husband had been raised attending a Baptist church with his mother, brother & sister, he said he didn’t care to attend Baptist Services, and always went with me voluntarily to Mass at my Parish each week, saying that he enjoyed it.
    I continued to pray for his Spiritual Devotion privately, and hopefully his future Conversion to Catholicism, if it was what he wanted and God’s Will.
    We welcomed a baby girl to our family 23 months after our wedding, and she was Christened in our Parish at 4 months old. I’d always “hoped” for two children “someday”, but encountered many complications during the pregnancy and delivery, which endangered her life and mine, but continued praying daily for all to be well. Although our daughter was born full-term & healthy, the Military doctors stated I would not be able to have more children. Her father said at that point he’d decided that he didn’t want more children anyway, so I remained grateful and happy we’d been blessed with at least 1 healthy child.
    My husband’s military career continuously deployed him all over the world to dangerous locations including Desert Shield-Desert Storm. I remained at home in Military Housing with our daughter, caring for her alone, with the help of the “Sesame Street” programming/”educational tools” until she turned 2, and then we’d agreed I would send her to preschool at the Childcare Center on base, while I began a new career on-base in Federal Service as a Contracting Officer for Dept. of Defense. Our girl was so happy to finally have daily playmates and she was learning quickly to expand her world in many new ways.
    Thankfully we always had wonderful Military Chaplains serving Mass in the base chapel, in addition to some great Parish Priests at locations where we also lived in the nearby town, instead of on-base.
    With the passing of each year, my husband became less and less interested in being married, and conducted himself as a Single Person “on the prowl”. I read many Marriage Enrichment materials over the years and attended Christian Marriage Counselors (by myself) everywhere we were stationed, yet was unable to “save our marriage” by myself. I was able to convince my husband in 1992, and again 1996, to attend a Weekend Marriage Encounter program at two different duty stations, but he wasn’t interested in “applying” the tools we were given, after returning home from the wknd. Program. We did attend an Engaged Encounter program in our community before our wedding.
    At every duty station where we lived, I sought advice from my Priest, and was always advised : “No Priest would tell you to stay in this situation…”
    Finally after 18 years, when our daughter was 16, I separated from him and 6 months later we were divorced.
    I’m now age 63, and have dated many different people over the past 20 years, although somehow have not yet met the One Person whose values and morals are compatible with mine, as I’ve always prayed for a Christ-Centered marriage – A Covenant, versus a contract.
    So, here I am after 50 years of praying every night for the one my soul can love, who will also love me in his soul.
    I still believe it can and will happen – in God’s timing, not mine – and I will continue praying, every night.
    Thank You for Doing God’s Work of Inspiration and Hope,
    Catherine
    p.s. May God Bless you and your Family, and let us pray for each other

      Jenan Y.
      16 Oct 2018
      6:07pm

      Hi Catherine, I read the whole thing you wrote in the comment. I pray for God to answer your prayers soon. I felt sad with your situation. I have heard many stories that resemble yours. We’ll continue to pray for one another. I am not an exception to miseries. My 1st marriage was to a baptist also, but wasn’t really attending their church, instead he was coming with me to the Catholic church. That marriage didn’t last long, we finally separated after 4 years, but we were probably only together for 2 years. I finally found a good husband after 8 years of being single. But after 6 years, my 2nd husband died. I am single again for the past 10 years. I have not dated since my husband’s death. I, too, hope that someday I’ll find someone who would share his life with me and I with him. I pray for you and do pray for me. God bless us all.

    Orla
    9 Dec 2018
    4:51pm

    I love this . Thanks for sharing . I am single . Will pray for husbands faith and love for god . God bless

    Star Light
    7 Apr 2019
    6:08pm

    Praying for a Catholic God loving man.

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