Hi Michele,
Is Charlie Sheen half right when he calls his girlfriend’s Goddesses?? Where Charlie makes his BIG mistake, in my opinion, is having TWO goddesses. If Charlie was Christian, he would understand that you can only have and serve ONE God and the same thing applies in relationships. Is my thinking correct?? If you are in love with your girlfriend, should you think of her as a goddess because of her inside & outside beauty, her femininity, personality and charm? In general, I think women who are beautiful inside and out as goddesses. Am I correct or Just as Wacked Out as Charlie Sheen??
Signed,
Is Charlie Sheen Right?
Dear Is Charlie Sheen Right,
Let me tell you, I love this question. You are able to point out the absurdity of our culture while at the same time hearing a hopeful message about what it means to love another person.
It’s going to be hard for me to say that Charlie Sheen is any part right about really anything. But, I hear your point. Clearly, assuming that you can share a committed, God-centered relationship with two women at the same time is horribly misguided. The very nature of the Catholic view of love is based on fidelity and faithfulness, a model given to us in Christ’s love for the Church. Created as sexual beings, when we share our bodies with one another, we are sharing a part of our soul. We are participating in the gift of a more bonded union with our partner and the possibility of new life, both designed by God to bless our marriages. It is particularly disturbing that Charlie Sheen is a father, since children receive their most powerful messages about love and sex from their parents. The best thing we can do is to pray for him and his children.
So before I sound too sanctimonious, let’s look at the second part of your question. Thank you for pointing out the inner beauty of character and grace. How wonderful God created us male and female! Yes, you should look upon your partner with admiration and wonderment, along with gratitude, especially during the courting phase of a relationship. Being in love with the uniqueness of the person is how God looks upon each of us.
Now to put in my disclaimer, I get that some people may not like the term “goddess.” I’m not sure I’m totally comfortable with it myself, as it could bring up the notion you somehow believe she is divine or perfect like our heavenly Father. But the term is not as important as understanding real love is built from authenticity, meaning we are in love with the total person, flaws and all. As another fallen human being, I’m sure there are times your girlfriend may not always live up to your ideal. Maybe she is tired and becomes impatient. Maybe she falls short of total kindness at all times. Maybe she has actually made a poor decision at some point in her life. I am hoping you see the “real” person, and still feel the love and compassion you express in your letter. If for you that means you consider her a “goddess,” then consider it a great gift that God has sent you someone that fulfills the desires of your heart.
I gotta say it again, I love the question. Thanks for making us all stop and consider what is valuable in the messages we see in the media, and what we should reject. Your lightheartedness shines through to a deeper message of the beauty in finding someone to love.
God Bless,
Michele Fleming, M.A.
