Part of being a man is dealing with the potentially obnoxious sex drive that he has within. No matter what stage of life the man is at he needs to learn to deal with this simply because it is generally physically and temporally impossible to have all the sex that his body and mind wants to have. At the same time, a completely unfulfilled desire for intimacy is more likely to leave him vulnerable to unhappy habits like pornography or self-pleasuring.
Here are a few things that can help keep it in control whether you are single or in a committed relationship.
1. BE PHYSICALLY EXHAUSTED BY THE END OF THE DAY
Find workouts that challenges you to the maximum of your ability. It should make you sweat, sore, and beg the instructor to take a breather. It is no secret that physically exhausted people are less concerned with sex and more concerned with getting something to eat and taking a nap. That is a good way to end the day.
If your workout consists in nothing more than a few dead lifts and a jog in the park you may want to step it up and take some serious classes. Don’t want to commit your credit card? Keep an eye out for the entry level specials around holidays (Memorial Day, 4th of July), sample a few places and find a work out that both challenges you and gets you excited to change into gym clothes.
2. HAVE A FULL SCHEDULE
If you don’t have time to think about sex you probably won’t think about sex. That means if you do not know what you are doing at 6pm after work and then 7pm after that, get the agenda together, start adding events, hobbies, socials and keep moving along.
Rest time is definitely good, but scheduled rest time and determine how you will rest. Don’t just hang out with nothing to do or “things up in the air”.
3. BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU SEE
We’re all mature adults and can handle a saucy movie occasionally so the point is not to avoid systematically any skin or sex in our daily viewings. However, we need to be realistic because we are human also and are not all-powerful when it comes to controlling our minds. A great passage comes to mind from the book, “The Road” by Cormac McCarthy. It is a dialogue between a father and son.
Just remember that the things you put into your head are there forever, he said. You might want to think about that.
You forget some things don’t you?
Yes, you forget what you want to remember and you remember what you want to forget.
Cormac, respectful of the power of the subconscious, was referring to the ugliness of war and graphic death in this passage but it can also have a universal meaning. We are not in absolute control of our minds and sometimes the subconscious can have a mind of its own. Prime it well with good thoughts that become your allies and not images you are at war with.
The bikini models you follow on Instagram? That steamy hot series you binge watch on Netflix? If you feel comfortable with that jam and that is how you enjoy God’s creation, fine, but ask yourself if that is all stuff you want in your head forever and ever. And ask yourself if it is fulfilling desires or just creating more unfulfilled desires.
For a man, the drive for physical intimacy is an awesome power and something to be thankful for if you have it. It is really annoying though when it gets out of control and you find yourself dedicating your energy in being at war with it. So think ahead and take the steps you think you need to take to channel and enjoy it properly at the right moments.
