What the Saints Have to Say About Love, Dating, & Relationships
Intentional dating, authentic love, and holy relationships can be hard to live out in a culture that celebrates use, pornography, and hook-ups. If you’re swimming upstream in today’s current, it can be easy to feel alone, left out, and wonder if the struggle is really worth it. We need to hear the truth, especially in a culture that tells us lies about what love should look like.
If you’re striving for a virtuous love life with Christ at the center, what better place to look than to the saints? Married, single, or consecrated religious, the saints give us a roadmap for how to reach Heaven and sanctity. Their passionate love for their spouse, neighbor, their vocation, and God inspires us here in the Church militant to keep up the good fight.
If you’re struggling to reject the lies you’ve been fed by the culture, here are fifteen saint quotes to rejuvenate you in your journey towards authentic love.
“Let us love, since that is what our hearts were made for.” -Saint Therese of Lisieux
“Love to be real, it must cost—it must hurt—it must empty us of self.” -Saint Theresa of Calcutta
“Intense love does not measure it just gives. ” -Saint Theresa of Calcutta
“It is easy to love the people far away. It is not always easy to love those close to us. It is easier to give a cup of rice to relieve hunger than to relieve the loneliness and pain of someone unloved in our own home. Bring love into your home for this is where our love for each other must start.” -Saint Theresa of Calcutta
“When a man loves a woman, he has to become worthy of her. The higher her virtue, the more noble her character, the more devoted she is to truth, justice, goodness, the more a man has to aspire to be worthy of her. The history of civilization could actually be written in terms of the level of its women.” -Venerable Fulton Sheen
“Take away from love the fullness of self-surrender, the completeness of personal commitment, and what remains will be a total denial and negation of it.” -Saint Pope John Paul II
“Don’t you long to shout to those youths who are bustling around you: Fools! Leave those worldly things that shackle the heart – and very often degrade it – leave all that and come with us in search of Love!” Saint Josemaria Escriva
“Love is the most necessary of all virtues. Love in the person who preaches the word of God is like fire in a musket. If a person were to throw a bullet with his hands, he would hardly make a dent in anything; but if the person takes the same bullet and ignites some gunpowder behind it, it can kill. It is much the same with the word of God. If it is spoken by someone who is filled with the fire of charity- the fire of love of God and neighbor- it will work wonders.” -Saint Anthony Mary Claret
“You learn to speak by speaking, to study by studying, to run by running, to work by working, and just so, you learn to love by loving. All those who think to learn in any other way deceive themselves.” -Saint Francis de Sales
“If any of you should wish to act out of love, brothers, do not imagine it to be a self-abasing, passive and timid thing. And do not think that love can be preserved by a sort of gentleness – or rather tame listlessness. This is not how it is preserved. Do not imagine that you love your servant when you refrain from beating him, or that you love your son when you do not discipline him, or that you love your neighbor when you do not rebuke him. This is not love, it is feebleness. Love should be fervent to correct.” -Saint Augustine
“Love is never something ready-made, something merely ‘given’ to man and woman; it is always at the same time a ‘task’ which they are set. Love should be seen as something which in a sense never ‘is’ but is always only ‘becoming’, and what it becomes depends upon the contribution of both persons and the depth of their commitment.” -Saint Pope John Paul II
“It takes three to make love, not two: you, your spouse, and God. Without God people only succeed in bringing out the worst in one another. Lovers who have nothing else to do but love each other soon find there is nothing else. Without a central loyalty life is unfinished.” -Venerable Fulton Sheen
“The things that we love tell us what we are.” -Saint Thomas Aquinas
“Everything comes from love, all is ordained for the salvation of man, God does nothing without this goal in mind.” -Saint Catherine of Siena
“It is not so essential to think much as to love much.” -Saint Teresa of Jesus, OCD
Chloe Langr is a very short stay-at-home-wife, whose growth has probably been stunted by the inhumane amounts of coffee she regularly consumes. When she is not buried in a growing stack of books, she can be found spending time with her husband, geeking out over Theology of the Body, or podcasting. You can find more about her on her blog "Old Fashioned Girl."