The Best First Date Based on Your Date’s Meyers-Briggs Type
How do you plan the perfect first date? Should you be adventurous and try something new, or stick to the classic first date? Katherine Briggs and her daughter Isabel Briggs Myers popularized the Jungian psychology with the introduction of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® or MBTI. By arranging Jung’s psychological differences into dichotomies, the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator results in 16 personality types.
Now, the MBTI is one of the most popular personality assessment tools. It’s based on Jung’s personality theory: the concepts of introversion and extraversion (our attitude), based on his empirical observations, and how people perceive and judge the world (our four psychological functions: thinking, feeling, sensation and intuition).
If you don’t know your MBTI personality type, you can take the test online here! Then, read on to discover the best way to plan the perfect first date based on the Myers-Briggs!
INTJ: Attend a local lecture
INTJs are strategic and involved thinkers. The perfect way to get to know this personality type is to invite them to an event that will challenge them intellectually and lead to some wholesome discussion afterwards. Check your local college, library, or community center for upcoming lectures to attend together.
No lectures in your area? Grab dinner and listen to a recorded talk on Catholicism. You’ll learn about your faith together and have engaging discussion, all at the same time!
INTP: Go for a walk
INTPs are driven by reason and have an unquenchable thirst for knowledge. But they’re also more introverted and can be quiet observers. If you’re taking an INTP out on a date, plan an evening where you can observe and explore the world together. Maybe that means going for an evening walk in your local park and finishing the date with a quiet coffee shop visit to talk about things that matter to both of you.
ENTJ: Explore your city with a scavenger hunt
ENTJs are bold and imaginative. They love an exciting and stimulating experience. Because this personality type is great at finding a way (or making one!), challenge them to a scavenger hunt through your city. You’ll discover hidden gems in your local area that you didn’t even know about, and your date will enjoy discussing what you found on the way!
ENTP: Take a class and learn something new
ENTPs are smart and curious thinkers. This personality type can’t resist an intellectual challenge. Celebrate their personality by taking a class together. Cooking, dancing, or painting all give your date the chance to get creative and learn something new at the same time.
INFJ: Wander through a bookstore
INFJs are quiet and contemplative. If you’re going out on a date with this personality type, you’ll find he or she is incredibly empathetic and a fantastic listener. Hit up a local coffee shop for a latte, then wander around a bookstore with your date. Ask him or her what their favorite books are, and share some of your favorites, too.
This personality type isn’t afraid of deeper conversations, so don’t be afraid to show them your favorite philosophical read or a novel that changed the way you think about an important life issue.
INFP: Volunteer together
INFPs are poetic and kind. They’re always willing to lend a hand to help out with a good cause. This personality type loves sharing their vision for making the world a better place, then pursuing that vision with someone they love. Discover what cause your date is passionate about, then plan a day where you can make a difference in the world together.
Whether you clean up a local park or spend time at an assisted living facility, an INFP will treasure your shared values and mutual support.
ENFJ: Visit the museum
ENFJs are the charismatic leaders of the MBTI personality test. If you want to have a great date with an ENFJ, show up on time and have a plan in mind. Because this personality loves to discuss their thoughts and feelings, and enjoys the arts, a trip to the museum is a great date night idea. Ask your date what their favorite part of an exhibit was over appetizers after your adventure together.
ENFP: Go to the comedy club
ENFPs are enthusiastic creatives. They love being social with others and sharing a smile. Another passion of this personality type is exploring a new place or experiencing something novel. If your date has never been to a comedy club, this is a great environment to combine all of their likes and passions.
ISTJ: Share a cup of coffee
ISTJs are practical and reliable. If you’re dating someone with this MBTI personality type, they may enjoy a classic first date. Enjoy a cup of coffee together. If their not a coffee person, meet them for dinner after a work night.
ISFJ: Cook dinner together
ISFJs are dedicated protectors, always ready to come to the defense of someone they love. This MBTI personality type loves orderliness and can tend towards the quiet side. Get to know your date better by inviting them over to cook dinner together. If you want to get out of the house, you can go shopping for the meal together before relaxing over good conversation in the kitchen.
ESTJ: Try an escape room
ESTJs are fantastic at coordinating projects and making sure tasks get done. Tap into this MBTI personality type’s leadership skills and take-charge attitude and tackle a project together. A fun first date could be trying to escape from an escape room together! Your date will love leading the charge, and you can get to know how they react under the pressure of a timed puzzle.
ESFJ: Attend a local sports game
ESFJs are a MBTI personality type that is caring, social, and always ready to help someone out. They’re motivated by high energy and excitement, so going to a sports game event is the perfect place to get to know your date better. They’ll love cheering on a team, and will love getting to know other fans.
ISTP: Explore high heights together
ISTPs are bold and adventurous. This MBTI personality type can be on the quiet side, but they may have secret hopes to do something thrilling. Tap into their adventurous side and explore high heights together. This could be hiking a mountain, going for a hot air balloon ride, or getting dinner at a rooftop bar in your city.
ISFP: Discover a new restaurant
ISFPs are flexible and always ready to experience something new. Tap into their personality type and try out a new restaurant in your city. They’ll love trying something completely new and sharing the experience with someone they’re getting to know better. This MBTI personality type loves intentional time together, so make sure to put your phone in your pocket and really be present with them during your date.
ESTP: Plan a spontaneous drive across town
ESTPs are intelligent, energetic, and perceptive. This MBTI personality type lives on the edge and loves an adventure. They love going with the flow, so have a spontaneous and fun first date. Bring a quarter with you and go for a drive. Have your date flip the coin at every turn to decide which way you’ll go. Leave where you’ll go to dinner up to chance and enjoy the adventure with your date.
ESFP: Karaoke night
ESFPs are energetic and enthusiastic. When you spend time with this MBTI personality type, life isn’t going to be boring. Your date is great about getting out of their comfort zone, so try something like a karaoke night. But don’t think you’ll just get to sit back and watch them be adventurous! Your date will probably pull you out of your comfort zone, too.
Get to know more about personality types!
Our personality plays an essential role in how we see the world and feel attracted to certain people. Knowing about and understanding our personality type are definitely important factors for self-development. By being aware of our strengths and recognizing those personality traits that we need to work on, we can improve our interpersonal relationships. Find out about all the personality type tests and assessments with this definitive guide to personality types!
Chloe Langr is a very short stay-at-home-wife, whose growth has probably been stunted by the inhumane amounts of coffee she regularly consumes. When she is not buried in a growing stack of books, she can be found spending time with her husband, geeking out over Theology of the Body, or podcasting. You can find more about her on her blog "Old Fashioned Girl."