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Hi Michele, I am suffering from the pain of deception from my previous marriage. After two years, I came home and he was gone, all of his belongings removed. All the time we were together he professed love to me. So I was shocked and very hurt. He continued to contact me...
LION: YES! This powerful true story about a 5 year old boy in India who winds up lost on the other side of his homeland and finds a new life when he's adopted by a successful white couple before engaging in an amazing search for his birth family 20 years later is one of ...
Recently, I sat at a table with several young adults who had gone to a local young adult ministry event advertised as a “dating talk”. I asked what the talk was about. “What to do before getting married,” was the reply. “Cool! What am I supposed to...
You turn the news on today and front line you hear about politics. And politics. And more politics. The only thing you really have to notice though is how this is affecting your relationships because Presidents come and go but "the one" lasts for ever, or so the...
DATEWORTHY? MOSTLY. This teen sci-fi romance features sweet lead performances in an original concept - what would happen if a teenage human boy living on a NASA project on Mars met an earthbound girl and fell in love? - but a few plot holes require gravity-defying suspensio...
Past HOMILY of Father Jim Chern. So it will soon be Valentine's Day. It's been hard not to notice. The day after Christmas, the CVS store had already cleared out the Christmas decorations and had boxes and boxes of cards, candy, Stuffed Animals (including my person...
A year after the Academy Awards were criticized and boycotted for a complete lack of minority representation in the major categories, the 2017 Oscar nominations were announced Tuesday with a noticeably improved mix of talent. In fact, out of this year’s nine Best Pictur...
I get a lot of emails from people who are longing for their search for a mate to end, and end soon! Valentine’s Day is likely going to make that feeling even more prominent, especially without a prospect on the horizon. How do you get through Valentine’s Day when...
SPLIT: The latest mind-bending, twisty thriller from M. Night Shyamalan of "The Sixth Sense" and "Signs" fame delivers the goods on intelligent scares done in mostly tasteful fashion, but be aware this is his darkest story ever until its memorable conclus...
Did you know that Mary was approximately four feet and eleven inches tall? She may be petite, but in the eyes of God, she is a decorated Four-Star General and a powerhouse of a saint. The Blessed Mother is my favorite saint, I admit it. This may be the first of many artic...
SILENCE: This overlong story of Catholic missionaries risking martyrdom in 1600s Japan tries to pretend that it's a powerful look at faith under duress, but in fact is dangerous because it makes viewers sympathize with denial of faith long after the threat to the priests...
Everyone who is using online dating becomes a messenger. By messenger I mean someone who sends messages and probably lots of them. While I prefer a phone call to a message any day, it is not always possible to do that until a minimum degree of trust is established; thus, t...
"HIDDEN FIGURES": This historical tale of three African-American women who broke through racial barriers to become heroes to the NASA space race against the Soviets is uplifting, engrossing and faith-filled and an absolute dateworthy film for anyone! "A MONSTE...
St. Thomas Aquinas is one of the greatest minds of the middle ages and he would become one of the greatest saints of our Church. He lived in Italy in the 13th century in the area now known as Lazio. Thomas was born into a wealthy family. He could be considered brilliant, ...
Happy New Year 2017 everyone! Now that 2016 is behind us, let us start this year off on the right foot. Now, some of you are probably single like me and after seeing all your best friends posting that they are engaged, in a courtship, or currently with child, you are proba...
Recently, I felt I needed to infuse some energy into my daily routine so I tried the carpe diem approach and told myself, “This is my last week on Earth. What am I going to do?” I thought about calling it my last day but then I’d probably just finish Season ...
Each year I see more than 150 movies, and I’m pretty easy to please. But there’s always a few movies that stand out from the pack as ones I’d see over and over and recommend to anyone’s collection – and a few that I’d rather forget forever. Fol...
One of my favorite exhibits in the world can be found in the American Museum of Natural History. The museum is rich with delights to wonder your mind so it really is a daunting statement to say one exhibit above all else stands out. The exhibit I speak of is the 'Scale...
“Passengers”: It might have seemed like a clever idea at one point to have two of the hottest young stars in movies today, Jennifer Lawrence and Chris Pratt, team up for what amounts to a combination of a space-age Adam and Eve story done up as a bad ripoff of the ...
"Fences": Intense adaptation of a classic stage play that follows an African-American man's battle against his dying dreams in 1950s Pittsburgh. Powerful drama, but a downer. Definitely Dateworthy if you're serious-minded. "Manchester by the Sea"...
My most recent book promotion took me to Denver, Colorado where a few things happened. First of all, I coincidently went snowboarding on Copper mountain for a bachelor party. I think the best bachelor parties are the ones that test some man skill like endurance, confidence,...
Solanus Casey was born in Wisconsin in 1870. He was one of sixteen children. His parents had immigrated to America from Ireland. Barney, as he was called as a boy, grew up in a very loving Catholic family. His siblings enjoyed playing baseball together, also skiing and s...
DATEWORTHY?: Are you kidding me? Everyone in the galaxy wants to see anything "Star Wars"! When George Lucas sold Lucasfilm to Disney in 2012 for $4 billion, there was a mix of trepidation and anticipation among the fans of the “Star Wars” film series. A...
"OFFICE CHRISTMAS PARTY": Undeniably funny on a secular level, this movie is packed with enough raunchy content to merit extreme caution. If you can handle other R-rated comedies, feel free. If easily offended at all, don't go. Dateworthy for a very limited spe...
Dear Michele, I am torn. In the spirit of Christmas, I want to contact my ex to say "Merry Christmas." I do hope all is well with her. We split about 6 months ago, although it was not on mutual terms. She indicated that she did not see me as a potential marriag...
I've received several emails recently about how difficult it can be to be single for the holidays. Rather than answer each individual case, I thought I would share with you my own personal experience with that same struggle. I remember one particular Christmas gatherin...
“MOANA”: The latest Disney animation smash offers high adventure and fun laughs from the voiced character of Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson, but its mostly lackluster songs prevent it from being a classic. Still, DATEWORTHY. “THE EDGE OF SEVENTEEN”: ...
Everybody wants to be happy from now until January 1st. Thanksgiving, Christmas parties, and New Years should be, we are told, the happiest time of the year. It is hard to be happy without first being thankful, which is in fact why we celebrate Thanksgiving before Christm...
My brother Michael is a seminarian in the diocese of Tegucigalpas in Honduras. My brother Michael is an extremely grateful person. The other night when I was speaking with him on the phone, he mentioned that he was really focusing on gratitude in his life, on thanking God ...
DATEWORTHY: YES! While its plot is as overstuffed as a Thanksgiving dinner, there's plenty of fun magic to be found here in a film that will entertain all ages. What’s a movie studio to do when it runs out of ideas in a film series that made $7.7 billion worldwide?...
A drifting, pointless plotline with undefined characters, further ruined by an annoying new style of filming technique. There have been breakthrough moments in the history of film technology, from the creation of talkies through the addition of color, and the coming, going a...
DOCTOR STRANGE: A time-bending, mind-tripping Marvel superhero tale that is endlessly fascinating to watch, it's loads of fun if you keep its Eastern mystic aspects in perspective. YES. HACKSAW RIDGE: Mel Gibson's comeback film after a decade in the Hollywood dogho...
“A man who is truly interested in a woman will find an endless number of ways to spend time with her.” That quote came across my Facebook feed today. It is a beautiful quote. It is also a quote meant for married men, not dating men. Giving someone all your time...
The year was 2010 and it was January. I took a pilgrimage to the beautiful country of Italy. As a single person, I had travelled much and had seen numerous countries. I am taking advantage of my time as a single to travel, to learn about other people and cultures, and to ...
DATEWORTHY? YES. The third in the series of religious-themed thrillers starring Tom Hanks steers clear of the blasphemous territory of "DaVinci Code" to offer a fun and frantic thriller centering a painting inspired by Dante's "Inferno" There are few ...
“Keeping Up with the Joneses”: Fun action-comedy with a few strong sexual innuendoes, but nothing an older teen or adult couple can’t handle. DATEWORTHY! “The Accountant”: One of the year’s best films, it features some strong violence but nothin...
A Greek princess who lived during the time of the Roman Empire, Philomena was a physically beautiful woman. Not much is known about Philomena’s life. She was martyred by Diocletian in Rome in 304 AD around the age of 13 or 14. She is a virgin and a martyr. She is th...
"Miss Peregrine's Home for Peculiar Children": Absolutely! This instant classic takes its place with Tim Burton's best fantasies and provides a wondrous evening of entertainment. "The Girl on the Train": Maybe. Well-made and compelling yet packed...
Deep in the heart of Basque country of Spain, a soldier of Christ was born. Ignatius would become a great saint with a gifted intellect, a zeal for God and His kingdom, and a fighting spirit. Ignatius of Loyola grew up in a noble family and became a Knight as a young man. ...
There are two kinds of true-story disaster movies hitting theatres this weekend. “Deepwater Horizon” stars Mark Wahlberg and Kurt Rusell in the tragic tale of what happened when the titular oil drilling rig fell to pieces in the Gulf of Mexico, causing what became ...
As Hollywood seems to run out of its own original ideas, reboots and remakes are an increasingly big part of the release schedule – with “Ghostbusters” and “Ben-Hur” just two classics that were reimagined this past summer. Both failed to incite excit...
Dear Michele, Although it is clear in my profile that I choose fellowship and friendship first in developing a relationship, my dates are not understanding it or accepting it. They may start calling me romantic nicknames, or might try to kiss me in a romantic way on the fir...
DATEWORTHY? Yes, but be forewarned that its attitudes and jokes about sex are pretty casual early on, before the story develops into a more moral storyline with a surprisingly pro-life attitude. When Renee Zellweger burst into fame as Tom Cruise’s quirky, humble girlfr...
Dateworthy?: Yes, it's a thought-provoking conversation starter. Be warned, it does feature a fair amount of F words in some scenes and has a brief yet fairly graphic sex scene that does figure into the bigger plot, however. It may seem like a cliché and an imposs...
This week I reconnected with my High School friend, Austin, who happened in town on business. Over vodka on rocks, we toasted to our 15 year reunion. Of course, first item of catch up was careers. It quickly became evident that Austin had become very successful. He will s...
I know it is not June nor the month of the Sacred Heart of Jesus, but I have been reading a lot about the Sacred Heart of Jesus lately as I begin my last full year at Franciscan University and before Grad School at Bradley University in Peoria, Illinois (which is where I am ...
Gianna Molla is a newer Saint, one canonized recently by John Paul II. She was raised in a large Catholic family of twelve children and lived in the Lombardy region of Italy. Her parents were devout and often prayed the Holy Rosary together as a family. During her teen ye...
The struggle of how to make movies about world-famous events in a way that enraptures audiences has been a challenge for Hollywood since the dawn of cinema. But the new movie “Sully,” featuring the powerhouse team of actor Tom Hanks and director Clint Eastwood, sho...
It’s the end of summer, a time when cinemas are usually relegated to being the dumping ground for the films that might once have seemed like potential blockbusters but turned out to be the forgotten stepchildren of the multiplex. This week, let’s take a look at two...
There are few actors in Hollywood brave enough to wear their Catholic faith on their sleeve and base their career decisions about the films and TV shows they will and won’t do on the morals they’ve been instilled with. Jim Caviezel, who played Christ in “The P...
Three years ago I began writing a book for single Catholic professionals. The demographic of single professionals in the Catholic Church is growing. On one hand the young adult groups are growing not only in numbers, but in age limits, as well. We now have 39 year olds go...
We’re reaching the tail-end of summer, when studios tend to dump out movies that have no-name casts or have turned out poorly in the hopes that no one will notice how bad the films are amid season-ending cookouts and last-minute vacations. So I won’t waste yours or...
Good manners are all the rage now. Any man who has scrolled across a few dating profiles will see that most women are looking for a guy who is chivalrous, polite etc. My Catholic dating blog feed is diluted with tales of how reviving that lost art of being a gentleman will...
In 1960, the biblical epic “Ben-Hur” became the all-time Oscar-winning film, with 11 of the gold statuettes going to the tale of a Jewish prince who is betrayed and forced into slavery by a Roman friend, then regains his freedom and seeks revenge. The movie was als...
Many of us are part of the John Paul II Generation. I know I definitely am. We grew up with this Pope. He was the only Pope many of us knew for twenty-five years. John Paul II was and is a spiritual father to many of us. I know that I personally was able to see this Pope...
This weekend sees the release of the summer's most unique yet raunchiest movie, a strongly R-rated animated comedy called "Sausage Party." Let it be clear that this is absolutely not a movie that anyone under 17 should watch, and discerning Catholics above tha...
Hildegard of Bingen was a German nun who lived in the 1100s. She was a learned polymath and had numerous achievements in various fields, including medicine, nutrition, theology, botany, music and literature. She would have been familiar with illuminated manuscripts from th...
Elections are coming up. Like most Americans, I’m absolutely sure of whom I’m not voting for but have no idea of whom I am voting for. Whom to vote for, however, is actually the least of my concerns. What I’m really worried about is keeping my sanity until ...
Dear Michele, How do you know if you're being played? A guy sent me a smiley and rose, I sent a thank you back to him. He emailed me and then we emailed back and forth for just under a month. Made arrangements to meet this past Sat he called Fri and cancelled. Then h...
There are few films that tell tales of Christian faith truly tested and used to win over incredibly troubling situations, but the current movie "The Innocents" manages to do this in remarkable fashion. It is a disturbing tale through much of its storyline, but ther...
Dear Michele, I can't seem to let go of my ex husband even though we are divorced. Is it that I'm lonely and would like some companionship? Please advise, in desperate need of some help. S. Dear S, Letting go of any significant relationship, and especially a long-t...
Men, prepare yourselves for the long haul. You will be dating longer. The average guy gets married at 29 now, meaning that a good number of them are probably 35+ and you may be among them. There’s nothing wrong with being single longer, the man biological clock still...
Matt Damon has long been an interesting choice for the character of Jason Bourne, a man assigned that name as a false cover identity after he was brainwashed by the CIA to become a super-agent and then suffered amnesia. Damon is one of Hollywood’s most outspoken liberal...
It has been a while since a courtship blog and as many people are starting to court over these long summer days, what would be better to start off the week than a courtship blog? Courtships has been thought of by today's young people as something that is for old people....
In the hype of what you should or should not eat I thought I’d take a moment to address eating from a Catholic perspective. The Catholic Church doesn’t espouse any particular diet, probably because the Catholic Church plans on being around longer than any particul...
Science-fiction can be a difficult genre of film for non-geeky, Average Joes and Janes to get their heads around. Often, the creation of new worlds and inventive forms of technology can simply become confusing if one isn’t already predisposed to being a technical genius...
In a summer ranging from uninspired retreads (“Now You See Me 2,” “Independence Day: Resurgence”) to big-budget original busts (“The BFG”) to at least one solid hit (“Finding Dory”), no film has drawn as much buzz or stirred up as muc...
The first thing we often notice about a man from a long way off is posture; and one of the first things your parents may have told you when you were old enough to sit in a chair was, “Sit up straight, don’t slouch.” I never understood the why of the “don&...
Dear Michele, I have a question. I am dating a guy, we started with emails and then a few more weeks of talking on the phone. When I met him and saw him for the first time I just wasn’t attracted to him physically. At the end of the first date I decided to have a sec...
John Chrysostom was a priest saint from about 1600 years ago. The fact that he was a priest and from a long time ago may give us the idea that he knew nothing about how to charm the lady. “Back then”, we are told, “women just swept the house all day. And pri...
The 4th of July is of course a great time for fireworks, but it’s also a great time to go and see movies. This summer hasn’t been as good as recent ones for films, but there’s a few fun ones out there. “Finding Dory” is fantastic for all ages, and ...
There has been a recent discovery in the world of men’s health. Earlier this year a University of Houston grad student revealed he’d discovered a series of essays on men’s health authored by Walt Whitman. Yeah, the poet, but keep reading. Is it Catholic to b...
Hi Michele, I am suffering from the pain of deception from my previous marriage. After two years, I came home and he was gone, all of his belongings removed. All the time we were together he professed love to me. So I was shocked and very hurt. He continued to contact me...
You’ve been on a few dates and you are beginning to ask yourself, “is this someone I want to become involved with?” How do you know when it feels right? Or, maybe you’re not even asking yourself that question – you’re ready to be committed ...
Greta Gerwig is perhaps the most underrated actress working in Hollywood today. A blond beauty with a grace and sweetness that makes her feel like she stepped straight out of the 1920s flapper era and into a present-day world that doesn’t know how to handle her sparkli...
Dear Michele, I am on this site and trying to meet Catholic man, I'm praying to meet the ONE the Lord has for ME, the BEST suited for ME. I'm praying for HIS guidance on this one. I'm 40 and never been married, with no children. My concerns about communicating w...
There is one night a month which should always be on every man’s calendar—guys night. Guys night is not a thing single men do by default of not having a date. It’s the thing that every man on the planet should be doing to thrive in his manhood and maybe sani...
Everyone can remember a mortifying moment from their high school days, or can relate to the feeling of having fallen from the heights of popularity and success in that period. And facing up to 20-year reunions is a daunting experience for anyone. The new movie “Central...
For decades, “The Exorcist” was considered the standard-bearer of horror movies, a full-throttle ride through the dark side that was nominated for 10 Oscars and became the highest-grossing horror film of all time. But in 2013, a movie called “The Conjuring...
Once a year, when I leave the house to go on a date, I vaguely wonder, “What do women notice first in a guy?” Is it the Pacman t-shirt or mismatched blazer? Either way, I’m probably not making a stellar impression. Then, a female friend recently clarified i...
It’s amazing how much ego a human being can have if left unchecked. That’s the lesson found in two current movies that are seemingly disparate on the surface, but have a lot in common in both form and substance. “Popstar: Never Stop Never Stopping” is a ...
When Tim Burton brought Lewis Carroll’s classic tale “Alice in Wonderland” to life on the big screen in 2010, he captured lightning in a bottle. Through a combination of lavish effects and costumes that wound up winning Oscars, a star-studded cast having fun p...
Dear Michele, I have been divorced for 11 years. I have tried numerous dating sites and have met a few men. But, I feel I am being too picky or just not ready to move on. I seem to sabotage the relationships before they start with silly reasons why this man is not for me ...
Dear Michele, I have a question. I am dating a guy, we started with emails and then a few more weeks of talking on the phone. When I met him and saw him for the first time I just wasn’t attracted to him physically. At the end of the first date I decided to have a seco...
Dear Michele, I have been chatting and private chatting with someone for two and a half months on this site. He does not want telephone conversation with me yet. He claims we are friends, but does not initiate private chat with me unless I begin first. I am wondering if I ...
Sometimes there’s a fine line between good taste and bad taste. A filmmaker can choose to tackle an “adult,” R-rated subject with class - avoiding graphic sex or violence and leaving extreme behavior to be implied offscreen – or simply wallow in the wor...
In my last blog I shared some data from a study we did of young Catholic women on their dating experiences within the Catholic communities. As promised, here is what the young Catholic men had to say within the same study. The general questions we had for men were, “A...
What does it mean when someone you've been on a few dates with suddenly disappears and no longer wants to communicate? He or she may not call, or return calls, or somehow make it pretty clear that they no longer want to be in touch with you. The stage of dating starting...
In a summer movie season packed with superhero movies, sci-fi spectaculars and raunchy comedies, it’s refreshing to find a movie for adults that respects viewers’ intelligence and is actually about something. This weekend’s big new movie, “Money Monster,&...
Dear Michele, I'm a man in my 60's who made it clear in my profile that I was lonely and would like to meet someone who would feel comfortable taking weekend excursions to places of interest with me. I found a woman who wrote in her profile that she likes to travel ...
There are about 400 films released each year, and for the past decade it feels like at least half of them star comic book superheroes. The two main comics companies bringing them to the silver screen are DC and Marvel Comics, which have had distinctly different approaches to...
Dear Michele, Why is it so hard to find a good guy? I really want someone who will treat me right and go to church with me. Either they are not the right age or they don’t respond to my requests. I really like this website but why is it so hard to meet a nice decent ...
Musicals were thought to be a dead film genre for decades, until the movie version of the Broadway classic “Chicago” came along to save the day as a smash success in 2002. Yet even as that film’s smash-hit $170 million gross and Best Picture win brought song a...
I have received many letters asking about how to talk to a date, or how to have better communication in relationships. There are some basic techniques to being a better communicator. First, be sure to listen fully to your partner and then give validation – that means ...
Dear Michele, I was woefully emotionally dependent in my first marriage. My ex-husband recently got engaged, and I was devastated as I had a ray of hope of reconciliation. Now, I recognize my need for affirmation from others, and how my abuse history contributed to my tenden...
Dear Michele, My boyfriend left me a week ago and has already moved on to another girl. His reasons were that I was too dramatic, despite the fact that he created most of the drama. I do have a very busy life and am constantly traveling across the state bouncing between hom...
Plenty of movies can be entertaining, and some are blatantly designed to have a message. But it’s truly a rare occasion when a movie manages to be both truly funny and downright important. I’m as surprised as anyone reading this to say that statement fits the late...
Back in 1967, Disney’s release of “The Jungle Book” as a cartoon took the world by storm, not only sparking massive box-office success but also inspiring screen legend Gregory Peck to lobby unsuccessfully for the Motion Picture Academy to change its rules to a...
Some time ago I wrote a blog Catholics Don’t Date. In the blog I made an observation on the lack of dating happening in Catholic communities. It was simply an observation and did not arrive to an explanation of why. Recently, the thematic has been a recurring themati...
Very few movie stars these days have managed to craft their image as well as Melissa McCarthy. Having come out of nowhere like a human tornado to steal Kristin Wiig’s 2011 smash “Bridesmaids” and earn a Best Supporting Actress Oscar nomination, she has manage...

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So here we are 13 years later! Susana and I we'd in August 2004 and have been happily married ever since. Last night we were laughing about the "good old days" and Catholic Singles was at the forefront of our memories. My goodness, a lot has happened since 2002. A lifetime of memories, love and d...

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My Husband and I met on this site in 2013. We had each been looking for a Catholic that shared our values and this is a great resource for bringing single Catholics together. We married a little over a year later and have happily welcomed our first child into the world. We have been extremely ble...

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We met in August 2013 after a few messages on Catholic Singles. From our first date, we were comfortable talking about everything from faith to football. On our second date, before going sailing, we started our day with mass together. Although our lives took very different paths previous to meeti...

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